{"id":254,"date":"2020-04-09T22:35:46","date_gmt":"2020-04-09T22:35:46","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/kynsemi.is\/?p=254"},"modified":"2020-10-27T12:04:52","modified_gmt":"2020-10-27T12:04:52","slug":"rutinan","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/kynsemi.is\/index.php\/2020\/04\/09\/rutinan\/","title":{"rendered":"R\u00fat\u00ednan"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Af einhverjum \u00e1st\u00e6\u00f0um eru r\u00fat\u00ednur \u00ed kynl\u00edfi hj\u00f3na litnar hornauga \u00fea\u00f0 er allt of miki\u00f0 einbl\u00ednt \u00e1 \u00fea\u00f0 \u00feegar p\u00f6r festast \u00ed r\u00fat\u00ednum og allt of l\u00edti\u00f0 tala\u00f0 um \u00fea\u00f0 g\u00f3\u00f0a vi\u00f0 a\u00f0 eiga kannski fasta punkta \u00ed tilverunni. \u00cd m\u00ednu sambandi er \u00fea\u00f0 svol\u00edti\u00f0 \u00feannig a\u00f0 Makanum m\u00ednum l\u00ed\u00f0ur vel me\u00f0 r\u00fat\u00ednuna okkar, hann hefur \u00fea\u00f0 alveg agalega k\u00f3s\u00fd \u00fear, en hann passar sig a\u00f0 vanr\u00e6kja ekki a\u00f0 \u00e9g vil l\u00e1ta koma m\u00e9r a\u00f0 \u00f3vart og vil reglulega hrista upp \u00ed hlutum.
\u00c9g er b\u00fain a\u00f0 velta \u00fev\u00ed fyrir m\u00e9r hvernig \u00e9g get skrifa\u00f0 r\u00fat\u00ednuna okkar ni\u00f0ur \u00e1 bla\u00f0 en sta\u00f0reyndir er \u00fea\u00f0 er ekki h\u00e6gt \u00fev\u00ed \u00fea\u00f0 er aldrei eins. En \u00fea\u00f0 eru \u00e1kve\u00f0nir fastir punktar sem \u00e9g get neglt ni\u00f0ur og gert \u00fatl\u00ednu a\u00f0 bland \u00ed pokanum sem vi\u00f0 hj\u00f3nin dr\u00f6gum \u00far hverju sinni.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Forleikur- A\u00f0dragandi<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

\u00deetta finnst m\u00e9r eiginlega lang besti parturinn. Oftast byrjar \u00feetta hj\u00e1 okkur a\u00f0 anna\u00f0, lang oftast \u00e9g, \u00ed s\u00edmtali\/skilabo\u00f0um\/heg\u00f0um\/samtali l\u00fdsir \u00fev\u00ed yfir a\u00f0 \u00fea\u00f0 s\u00e9 \u00e1hugi fyrir kynl\u00edfi um kv\u00f6ldi\u00f0, eftir a\u00f0 b\u00f6rnin eru farin a\u00f0 sofa, \u00fev\u00ed einsog \u00e1byrgir foreldrar \u00fe\u00e1 er \u00feetta \u00ed lang flestum tilvikum skipulagt. En vi\u00f0 erum b\u00fain a\u00f0 byggja upp kerfi \u00fear sem vi\u00f0 hnippum \u00ed hvort anna\u00f0 me\u00f0 kl\u00farum skilabo\u00f0um e\u00f0a \u00f6\u00f0ru samb\u00e6rilegu yfir daginn. Stundum eru \u00feetta lengri samt\u00f6l, stundum eru \u00feetta litlar pillur h\u00e9r og \u00fear \u00ed gegnum daginn. Kl\u00farir brandarar okkar \u00e1 milli, sumt sem \u00e9g deili h\u00e9r \u00ed “Samt\u00f6l milli hj\u00f3na”.
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\u00deegar vi\u00f0 erum svo komin heim \u00fe\u00e1 er allt rafmagna\u00f0 \u00e1 milli okkar, en vi\u00f0 erum ekki b\u00fain a\u00f0 sinna hinum hlutverkunum okkar. Vi\u00f0 gerum \u00fea\u00f0 sem vi\u00f0 \u00feurfum a\u00f0 gera, en vi\u00f0 vitum hva\u00f0 er framundan. Vi\u00f0 sj\u00e1um \u00fea\u00f0 \u00ed leyndum augnlotum, hl\u00fdjum snertingum sem \u00fer\u00e1 svo a\u00f0 vera meira. Svo kemur kv\u00f6ldi\u00f0, og t\u00e6kif\u00e6ri\u00f0 n\u00e1lgast. En \u00feetta sn\u00fdst ekki allt um \u00fea\u00f0, hreinl\u00e6ti skiptir okkur l\u00edka miklu m\u00e1li. \u00deannig, n\u00e6r undantekningarlaust, f\u00f6rum vi\u00f0 \u00ed sitthvort ba\u00f0i\u00f0 me\u00f0an\/eftir a\u00f0 b\u00f6rnin eru sofnu\u00f0. Undantekningarnar eru ef vi\u00f0 f\u00f6rum \u00ed sturtu e\u00f0a f\u00f6rum saman \u00ed ba\u00f0 sem er eitthvaa\u00f0 sem vi\u00f0 h\u00f6fum reyndar gert \u00f6ll okkar \u00e1r, a\u00f0 fara regluega saman \u00ed ba\u00f0.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ba\u00f0t\u00edmi<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Fyrir m\u00e9r er \u00feetta algj\u00f6r t\u00f6frat\u00edmi. Kynfer\u00f0islega hla\u00f0inn, eftirv\u00e6nting \u00ed h\u00e1marki, allt sem er b\u00fai\u00f0 a\u00f0 fara fram okkar \u00e1 milli, allir kossarnir \u00ed laumi, allar snertingarnar og vi\u00f0 erum bara a\u00f0 b\u00ed\u00f0a eftir a\u00f0 vera b\u00fain a\u00f0 \u00fer\u00edfa okkur til a\u00f0 geta gert allt sem vi\u00f0 erum b\u00fain a\u00f0 tala um a\u00f0 gera vi\u00f0 hvort anna\u00f0 \u00ed allan dag.
Og \u00fea\u00f0 sem meira en \u00fea\u00f0 er vita\u00f0 og hefur veri\u00f0 vita\u00f0 lengi a\u00f0 \u00feegar \u00e9g fer \u00ed ba\u00f0 \u00fe\u00e1 eru allar l\u00edkur \u00e1 a\u00f0 \u00e9g noti sturtuhausinn. \u00c9g sver \u00e9g \u00e1 \u00ed svo h\u00e1\u00fer\u00f3u\u00f0u og svo innilega ekki leynilegu \u00e1starsamband vi\u00f0 sturtuhausinn en \u00fea\u00f0 er \u00ed g\u00f3\u00f0u lagi \u00fev\u00ed \u00e9g er hreinlega svo heppin a\u00f0 eiga Eiginmann sem kann a\u00f0 horfa \u00e1 \u00fea\u00f0 sem kost frekar en eitthva\u00f0 anna\u00f0. Og fyrir viki\u00f0 er honum mj\u00f6g reglulega bo\u00f0i\u00f0 a\u00f0 koma me\u00f0 inn \u00e1 ba\u00f0herbergi og anna\u00f0hvort vera \u00e1horfandi e\u00f0a virkur \u00fe\u00e1ttakandi \u00ed \u00fev\u00ed \u00e1starsambandi.
Margar af okkar bestu stundum eru \u00ed e\u00f0a kringum ba\u00f0kari\u00f0.
Stundum kl\u00e1rst allt bara \u00fear og \u00fea\u00f0 eru alltaf g\u00f3\u00f0ar stundir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Kynl\u00edf<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Aftur, \u00fe\u00e1 m\u00e1 skilgreining okkar hj\u00f3na ekki alltaf samr\u00fdmast annarra. en \u00fea\u00f0 er \u00fea\u00f0 fallega vi\u00f0 samb\u00f6nd, hverjum og einum er algj\u00f6rlega frj\u00e1lst a\u00f0 skilgreina einstaka hugt\u00f6k og hvernig \u00feau virka innan \u00feeirra eigin sambands.
Hj\u00e1 okkur er \u00fea\u00f0 \u00ed gr\u00f3fum dr\u00e1ttum “ath\u00f6fn sem lei\u00f0ir til fulln\u00e6gingar”
Sm\u00e1 innskot en m\u00e9r er eftirminnanlegt \u00feegar vi\u00f0 hj\u00f3n \u00e1ttum eitt sinn \u00ed deilum og samskipti voru stir\u00f0 okkar \u00e1 milli \u00ed viku, eftir vikuna \u00feegar samskipti voru farin a\u00f0 li\u00f0kast minist maki \u00e1 a\u00f0 \u00fea\u00f0 v\u00e6ri komi\u00f0 framyfir \u00feann t\u00edma sem vi\u00f0 stundum kynl\u00edf og hann v\u00e6ri farinn a\u00f0 finna fyrir aukinni \u00fe\u00f6rf. \u00deegar \u00e9g ro\u00f0na\u00f0i og leit undan \u00e1tta\u00f0i hann sig \u00e1 a\u00f0 okkar \u00f6r\u00f0uleikar h\u00f6f\u00f0u ekki haft \u00e1hrif \u00e1 mitt samband vi\u00f0 sturtuhausinn, a\u00f0 \u00fea\u00f0 v\u00e6ri mun styttra s\u00ed\u00f0an a\u00f0 \u00e9g fulln\u00e6g\u00f0i m\u00e9r en a\u00f0 hann f\u00e9kk fulln\u00e6gingu. Hann horfi \u00e1 mig og me\u00f0 bland af \u00f6fund og girnd sag\u00f0i hann h\u00e1st\u00f6fum “Ert \u00fe\u00fa b\u00fain a\u00f0 vera a\u00f0 stunda kynl\u00edf ?!?!”
\u00c9g hl\u00f3 og ro\u00f0na\u00f0i, gat ekki afneita\u00f0 \u00e1lyktun hans. Hva\u00f0 sem vi\u00f0 vorum a\u00f0 deila yfir var loki\u00f0 \u00e1 \u00feeirri stundu..
\u00deannig j\u00e1, jafnvel einf\u00f6ld sj\u00e1flsfr\u00f3un er eiginlega flokku\u00f0 sem kynl\u00edf allt yfir \u00ed munnm\u00f6k og r\u00ed\u00f0ingar. En \u00fea\u00f0 \u00fe\u00fd\u00f0ir l\u00edka a\u00f0 \u00fea\u00f0 er eiginlega \u00e6tlast til a\u00f0 allir \u00fe\u00e1ttakendur upplifi fulln\u00e6gingu.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Fulln\u00e6gingin<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Allt var\u00f0andi fulln\u00e6gingar er r\u00e6tt, sama hvort \u00fea\u00f0 \u00e1 s\u00e9r sta\u00f0 \u00ed kynl\u00edfi e\u00f0a fyrirfram.
Ef \u00fea\u00f0 var fyrirfram, \u00fe\u00e1 var hvernig hver kemur r\u00e6tt um yfir daginn. (Og \u00fea\u00f0 eitt og s\u00e9r er \u00ed m\u00f6rgum tilikum efni fyrir mig a\u00f0 skrifa)

En ef \u00fea\u00f0 var ekki fyrirfram \u00e1ke\u00f0i\u00f0 \u00fe\u00e1 er \u00fea\u00f0 nota\u00f0 sem innbl\u00e1stur \u00ed \u00fea\u00f0 sem vi\u00f0 segjum vi\u00f0 hvort anna\u00f0 \u00feegar leikar standa sem h\u00e6\u00f0st.

Hann kannski byrjar a\u00f0 snetra mig og segja m\u00e9r \u00ed hva\u00f0a stellingu hann vill hafa mig \u00ed \u00feegar hann \u00e6tar a\u00f0 r\u00ed\u00f0a m\u00e9r.

\u00c9g renni hendinni innankl\u00e6\u00f0a hj\u00e1 honum og leik vi\u00f0 hann me\u00f0an \u00e9g l\u00fdsi \u00fev\u00ed hvernig \u00e9g \u00e6tli b\u00e6\u00f0i a\u00f0 fulln\u00e6gja honum og m\u00e9r e\u00f0a jafnvel str\u00ed\u00f0i honum me\u00f0 a\u00f0 fulln\u00e6gja bara m\u00e9r me\u00f0 typpinu\/andlitinu\/fingrum hans.

Hvernig hann gr\u00edpur \u00ed anna\u00f0hvort h\u00e1ri\u00f0 e\u00f0a hreinlega h\u00f6fu\u00f0i\u00f0 \u00e1 m\u00e9r og beinir munninum \u00e1 m\u00e9r til a\u00f0 sj\u00faga hann. E\u00f0a \u00e9g gr\u00edp hann sj\u00e1lf og set hann upp \u00ed mig, s\u00fdni honum hva\u00f0 \u00e9g kann . hva\u00f0 get \u00e9g sat, \u00e9g hef gaman af \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 fulln\u00e6gja Mannium m\u00ednum me\u00f0 munnimum m\u00ednum.

A\u00f0 hann taki mig og l\u00e1ti mig \u00f6skra \u00feegar tekur mig me\u00f0 h\u00f6ndunum s\u00ednum \u00e1 me\u00f0an hann l\u00fdsir \u00fev\u00ed hvernig hann \u00e6tar a\u00f0 nota p\u00edkuna \u00e1 m\u00e9r til a\u00f0 fulln\u00e6gja sj\u00e1lfum s\u00e9r \u00feegar hann \u00e1kve\u00f0ur a\u00f0 \u00e9g er b\u00fain a\u00f0 koma n\u00f3g.

\u00dea\u00f0 eru til millj\u00f3n og ein samsetning \u00e1 r\u00fat\u00ednuni sem lei\u00f0ir til \u00feess a\u00f0 b\u00e6\u00f0i f\u00e1um \u00fe\u00e1 fulln\u00e6ginu sem okkur langar \u00ed \u00fe\u00e1 stundina.
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Lokani\u00f0ursta\u00f0a<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

\u00deegar upp er sta\u00f0i\u00f0 \u00fe\u00e1 er okkar r\u00fat\u00edna ekki fl\u00f3kin. \u00dea\u00f0 er forleikur, vi\u00f0 t\u00f6lum saman um v\u00e6ntingar okkar til kv\u00f6ldsins. Sama hvort \u00fea\u00f0 eru samfarir, \u00e1kv\u00f6r\u00f0un um eing\u00f6ngu Oral kv\u00f6ld, s\u00e9rstakar snertingar e\u00f0a athafnir, \u00f3skir um munnm\u00f6k e\u00f0a sama hva\u00f0 er \u00f3skrifa\u00f0 bla\u00f0 og allt er \u00ed bo\u00f0i.
\u00deegar vi\u00f0 erum komin heim, ef t\u00e6kif\u00e6ri gefst getum vi\u00f0 snert hvort anna\u00f0 en engin fulln\u00e6gin er \u00ed kortnum fyrr en t\u00edminn er r\u00e9ttur.
Vi\u00f0 n\u00fdtum t\u00edmann til a\u00f0 sinna hreinl\u00e6ti og jafnvel \u00e6sa hvort anna\u00f0 frekar.
\u00deegar vi\u00f0 h\u00f6fum n\u00e6\u00f0i til \u00fe\u00e1 kl\u00e1rum vi\u00f0 leikin \u00e1 \u00feann m\u00e1ta sem var fyrirfram \u00e1kve\u00f0i\u00f0 e\u00f0a spilum eftir eyra.
Allt eru sametningar sem \u00e9g get skrifa\u00f0 ni\u00f0ur \u00e1 einn e\u00f0a annan m\u00e1ta.


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Af einhverjum \u00e1st\u00e6\u00f0um eru r\u00fat\u00ednur \u00ed kynl\u00edfi hj\u00f3na litnar hornauga \u00fea\u00f0 er allt of miki\u00f0 einbl\u00ednt \u00e1 \u00fea\u00f0 \u00feegar p\u00f6r festast \u00ed r\u00fat\u00ednum og allt…<\/p>\n

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